By Niklas Göke
February 27th, 2018
“Ambition does not work in friendship.”
The more you have of these, the harder it is to make friends:
In other words, everything we fight tooth and nail for on a daily basis.
Most people think friendship falls somewhere on this list of potential life priorities. That is a mistake.
Ambition does not work in friendship.
The harder you try, the more people will suspect you’re after their money, knowledge, or social clout, just like you would.
Friendship is not on this list. It is its own list and it’s in balance with your ambition in all those more self-centered areas of life.
That’s why true friendships can’t be ‘about’ anything.
When you’re too busy trying to get the other person to like you for whatever reason, you never have time to ask your gut the much more important question: Do I like this person?
It’s not about how much ambition you’re willing to give up, or which friends you really ‘need,’ it’s about who you’d be happy to give some of your time to.
The biggest mistake people make in friendships is managing them with their heads, not their hearts.